Finding true love with a soulmate is not all that it’s cracked up to be. It’s more likely to be a case of “Help, I’ve found my soul mate!” In astrology, the 7th house is not just the house of marriage, it is also the house of open enemies. It is also opposed the 1st house of the physical self. Therefore the supposed ‘Soulmate’ relationship is very often a tug of war on many levels.
What may feel destined could also be a number of things. The beloved could be reflecting strongly back to you your animus or anima, what you are lacking in your chart, what you have disowned in your chart or, when the relationship turns sour, your worst demons. With synastry, squares and challenging synastry aspects between a couple are karmic aspects and can be extremely challenging. These will usually enable you to “fast-track” your spiritual evolution by burning off a ton of ingrained karma. Often a soul mate comes into your life simply to do this, but it does not mean it is lifelong. Negative karma from the past can attract you even more strongly than positive karma. Hence those impossible, gut-wrenching, and often unrequited love affairs.
Does this Chart Spell ‘Forever’?
I don’t believe an astrologer can or should ever tell you “This is the one”. It could be a one, however, and astrology can certainly show you why you have been pulled together. You will also be able to see why you find it so hard to break up even if the relationship is making you miserable. Usually, these are Moon/Saturn contacts. Looking at the charts individually first is crucial to see what each person can handle in a relationship.
Some people just cannot take too much drama, others would be bored without it. Some may need a very cozy domestic 24/7 togetherness, while others crave space so that a long distance romance might actually suit. Therefore it’s really rather pointless saying “Oh my Sun is conjunct his Moon, we are destined!” if one of you is a thrill seeker and the other likes vegging in front of the TV.